Average is the New Extraordinary

Average is the New Extraordinary

Merritt Benz, LCSW When you read this fortune- how does the statement make you feel? This was a fortune I got in a fortune cookie (big surprise, right) and it stuck with me for some reason. I kept it and it’s been on my refrigerator for months and I...
Your Story Matters Here

Your Story Matters Here

Merritt Benz, LCSW What if pain, failure, hurt, loneliness, shame disappointment, doubt…. All those words, all those experiences were redefined – Given new meaning. They are real, these feelings and experiences are true but they are not where hope is found. Hope...
Restoring Water

Restoring Water

Merritt Benz, LCSW A client I met with today shared with me a beautiful experience he had. He was dropping off his best friend at the airport and knew it would be a year or longer before he saw him again and he felt sad. Really sad. He said that in the past he would...
Growing Pains

Growing Pains

Merritt Benz, LCSW We often want change to happen in our lives in a linear, predictable way so that we can have some assurance and comfort that we are making “progress” and “getting better.” The reality however is that we all circle back to the same...
Taking the Path more Discomforting

Taking the Path more Discomforting

Merritt Benz, LCSW My 7-year-old son drew this picture. It says “I am angry” and it took everything in me to practice what I preach about no emotions being “bad” and sit with him in his discomfort as he works through how to manage his big...